Little Things You Can Do Right Now to Improve Your Marriage

 

Do the little things in marriage really make a huge difference?

Definitely yes!

Successful marriage need work, you can't stay there doing nothing about your marriage and think that every thing will be ok.  That's when you will start feeling bored with your marriage and your spouse. And we don't want that. We wish you to do something to improve your marriage, to make sure that you are contributing to having a beautiful happy marriage. That's why we are starting by sharing with you some little things you can do in marriage that really make a huge difference.  

Those little things help build a strong foundation. They have the power to make or break a relationship. The best thing about all those little things in a marriage is that they are easy. Everyone who want to have a successful marriage can do it very easily. 

You don’t have to read a book to figure these things out. Although, books on relationships are great. And reading one can make a massive difference. I will even share with different good books you can read to improve your marriage, but with these little things you are not yet in need of those books. Just read the whole article you will thank me later. 

The truth is at the beginning of every relationship all these little things were being done without a second thought. Over time, the little things fade and become non-existent. The married couple start living in a routine that make even intimacy almost impossible in their marriage. With these little things, your intimacy can come back, you can live as if you are in your honeymoon again. Well, you miss those days! Read.

Here are Little Things in Marriage…That Will Make a Huge Difference

1) Hold Hands

This is something so simple. But it is often something that goes away after time in a relationship.  That is something that I enjoy doing with my husband while walking together, watching  a movie together. Always it  warms my heart and whenever I see a couple holding hands, it warms my heart also; I start thinking that they are in love with each other. How do you feel when you see a couple holding hands. It may be possible that at the start of your relationship you were holding hands and now it faded out; don't worry you can do it again. Don’t be afraid to make the first move and grab your partner’s hand!

2) Cuddle

There is most likely one person in every relationship that is way more into cuddling. In my relationship, that is definitely me. No need to cuddle for hours during the nights. Just a few minutes will work wonders. Try cuddling for 10 minutes before bed. We are talking about small things you can do that make a big difference in your marriage.

3) Kiss

Ever have trouble remembering the last time you kissed your partner on the lips? Yes, people are busy. But a kiss on the lips takes no time at all. Kiss hello. 

Kiss goodbye. And always kiss goodnight. Just remember to take few seconds to kiss, you will feel the connection.

4) Say “I Love You”

This word I love you should be in your marriage no matter what condition you are in. Even when you are mad. Or stressed. Or whatever you are feeling. Look your partner in the eyes and say it. You will listen some spouses saying that it is no longer needed because this is for those who are still dating, those who are in honeymoon. And other spouse may not tell her/his partner that he/she loves him/her saying that she/he already know it. Just say it and later ask her/him how she/he feels when you tell her/him "I love you". Also sometimes one partner may be the first one to say I love you and another one hold back those words as a form of punishment. Don’t ever hold back those words as a form of punishment.

5. Be Intimate

I’m not just talking about S-E-X, although, to be fair, that’s pretty very important too! But intimacy is all about touch and closeness, and while I can’t speak for all men, I do know that my guy thrives on it, and most other men do too.

This means we have to be purposeful about being intimate, even when–especially when–we are short on time. It means remembering to hold hands or kiss for longer than just a peck. It could even mean hopping into the shower, giving him a quick unexpected back rub, or playing with his hair.

And believe me, I know sometimes it can seem like one more thing you have to take care of, and I also know all too well that when we’re feeling stressed or not feeling particularly “sexy” it can be a challenge to flip the switch and suddenly be all hot and bothered. Those are the times that you have to trust that the action will create the feeling. Make time for intimacy and you might just be surprised at how much closer–and sexy–you feel.

6) Say “Goodbye”

Sometimes you may be busy doing some chores and then you end up not knowing when your spouse left from the house to the job. This is not a good sign. Mornings can be especially hectic. But it takes less than 10 seconds to make sure you said goodbye. This is such a small thing but it could really cause some hurt feelings. I feel like people fall back on the word busy a lot. Don’t be too busy for the things that really matter. Just make sure that you say goodbye to your spouse, she/he will get even the chance to wish for you a good day.

7) Be grateful

Making sure that you thank your spouse for good things she/he does for you and for your marriage is so important. Take a time and think of those things. Don't always be checking things that she/he doesn't do very well; always checking for the mistakes is not good. It can not help your marriage rather it may kill it. So, thanking him/her for the good things she/he does can motivate him/her. 

When your spouse does something for you, do you always say thank you? So often we forget (or we come to expect) that our spouse will do their regular chores and duties around the house, but isn’t it nice to occasionally be thanked? Not only that, but our children will learn appreciation by modeling our behavior. Let them know how grateful we are that Daddy “fixes our bikes for us,” or, “painted the garage,” or, “works so hard.” Acknowledging and thanking your spouse will go a long way toward helping them feel appreciated and keeping your bond strong.

There are many conversations couples should have, as communication is vital to your marriage—but so is action. Often, we start to talk about all the things we feel and what our needs are, but then forget to put these thoughts and feelings into action.

8) Play a Game

When was the last time you played a board game with your spouse, tried to shoot some hoops, or even let them talk you through a video game (if that’s their thing)?

Playing board games with your spouse keeps your marriage fun and alive. Laughing and having fun together helps you feel young, reminds you of the person you fell in love with, and gives you energy. Bring playfulness into your marriage. Find something that holds interest for the two of you, whether it’s tennis, golf, running, or rock climbing. Pick an activity or hobby that’s fun and keeps the two of you engaged in a little healthy competition and laughter.

9) Keep Quiet(sometimes)

Sometimes your job is to just listen. Let them let it all out and just listen. There is  a time when your spouse want you to just listen. She/he may be sad for something and she/he doesn't want you to offer the advices or opinions; she/he only want you to stay by his/her side and listen effectively. With no phone, with no TV on, without any disturbance.  Just listen and keep quiet.

10) Say “Sorry”

You made a mistake. Said something you shouldn’t have to your spouse. Say sorry. Never underestimate the power of a sincere apology. There are some people who think that saying sorry is a sign of not being strong, that it is being  a coward but let me tell you this: saying sorry is a character of brave people not for coward. Do you think that your spouse may be happy for someone who don't say sorry who ignores his/her feelings? Because when you hurt her/him and then you don't apologies a symbol of ignoring his/her feelings. So, what would you gain from hurting your spouse? Make sure you practice to say sorry. 

11) Little Surprises

Do those little surprises to make your partner happy. Simple gestures to show love and appreciation. Some people feel loved and acknowledged through gifts or actions, and almost everyone enjoys a surprise or thoughtful gesture. It doesn’t mean you need to go out and purchase lavish gifts for your spouse, but if you’re out and you see your honey’s favorite beverage, pick one up and bring it home for him. Make his favorite dinner or cookies “just because.” Get him something funny or text him a funny photo or joke you heard. The idea is to simply let your spouse know you’re thinking of them throughout the day.

12) Send a Sweet Text

It would surprise you to see the messages of some spouses. Sometime you will see that they just text for those information like I have to buy the electricity,... And you won't find any sweet message. So make sure you text your spouse a  little something to show that you are thinking of him. A sweet text. Whatever you want. It feels good to know someone is thinking of you.

13) Be Honest about Money

There’s no single issue that can cause more stress within a marriage than money. Often, we might be on a different page than our spouse when it comes to finances and the way we save and spend. Tempers can flare and things can get heated.

Believe me–I’ve been there! In the past, things in my own marriage came to a head because of financial differences . It took a lot of effort to get us back on track! We learned that we had totally different mindsets when it came to money and spending, and we also learned that we had to be honest with each other about what we were spending, where our priorities were, and how we planned to save. Once we got on the same page and were able to work together towards our common goal of becoming debt free, things improved greatly.

While the money conversation can be tough, talk to each other about finances. Be open and honest with your spouse.

To recap: here are little things you can do to improve your marriage. 

1. Holds hands

2. cuddle

3. Kiss

4.Say "I love you"

5. Be intimate

6. Say "Goodbye"

7. Be grateful

8. play a game

9. Keep quiet (sometimes)

10. Say "sorry"

11. Little surprises

12. send a sweet text

13. Be honest about money.

Marriage is amazing and fun and wonderful. Keep yours strong and healthy by doing little things every day to keep the love flowing and your spouse happy. It’s not about being perfect or getting along ALL the time, but it’s about the little gestures that connect you and keep you bonded together as husband and wife.

Do you do these little things in your marriage? Tell us in the comments what you see changed in your marriage. And what else couple can do to improve their marriage, little things.  Just text in the comments, so that we would work together to build christian marriage that people enjoy to have.

Remember that a perfect marriage does not exist. Just like there are no perfect parents. But aim to have a thriving marriage.